Impact play is usually what comes to mind when one thinks of “kinky” play. The image of a powerful person laying down blows on an eager and whimpering partner is the stuff of many a kinky fantasy.
The atmosphere was exuberant and full of laughter as we wrapped our rope around a Volkswagen bug and lifted it into the air. We were full of righteous anger as we recounted the endless stories from women who had been disregarded and shamed because of their size. We set out to show that rope isn’t just for a single body type or a specific weight.
Recently I was asked what it is like being a kinkster on the far end of middle age (whatever that means). The immediate answer is Great! I’m at a point in life where my relationships have weathered enough storms to feel secure and where I can give any disapproving societal criticisms - but there is a change.
To my impressionable ears, the “Magic Man” and what he was selling was a clear-cut path to the mind-blowing sex my future surely held.
The key was you just had to wait for the Magic Man, Woman, Person, etc.
We have all inherited a legacy of oppression. Deeply rooted in our history, oppression has manifested itself in our psyche. Feelings of being victimized and a need to defend ourselves and our tribe are integral to how we live and interact. And when we form organizations, we can’t help but bring those feelings and that history to the communities we create. I want a sex positive community set up for everyone to succeed- so how do we do that?