To my impressionable ears, the “Magic Man” and what he was selling was a clear-cut path to the mind-blowing sex my future surely held.
The key was you just had to wait for the Magic Man, Woman, Person, etc.
We have all inherited a legacy of oppression. Deeply rooted in our history, oppression has manifested itself in our psyche. Feelings of being victimized and a need to defend ourselves and our tribe are integral to how we live and interact. And when we form organizations, we can’t help but bring those feelings and that history to the communities we create. I want a sex positive community set up for everyone to succeed- so how do we do that?
Some people have been told outright that they are too big to suspend, with all of the fat phobic language you can imagine. Every case is different, but a lot of people are actively discouraged from participating in rope bondage as a part of their kinky, sex positive lifestyle. This simply needs to stop.
For the twenty years I’ve been making dildos, one message I’ve consistently heard was that condoms on a questionable sex toy can protect you from rashes, burning, etc. It is not true. Condoms on sex toys are the canary in the coal mine.
How do we conquer the art of dirty talk and take our bedroom game to the next level? The answer, naturally, involves talking.