WHAT IS A VIBRATOR AND WHY DO YOU NEED ONE? | Dr. Karen Rayne

Let’s address the elephant in the room first: You don’t actually need a vibrator to have a good sex life, but having one might be quite nice!

So what exactly are they? 

Vibrators are exactly what they sound like: a sex toy that moves back and forth very quickly. They vibrate.

Other than that aspect, they can be quite varied. They can be used internally or they can be external toys. They can be large, small, smooth, ridged, colorful, so many things!

And what do you do with them?

You stimulate parts of your body or your partner’s body that feel good when touched with a vibrator. This can include the clitoris, g-spot, nipples, vulva, anus, prostate, and more, depending on the kind of touch that feels good and the kind of vibrator you choose. Some people prefer to use their vibrators solo, others use them with partners. Experimenting is the best way to find out what works best for you.

Some of the best things about vibrators:

  • The variation in size and shape means there’s probably one out there that you’ll like. A pocket-sized vibrator can provide very precise stimulation to a small area, like the clitoris, thicker toys vibrate at the base, and top-heavy toys vibrate at the top. Lots of people like to have a variety on hand, so to speak, for different moods and to mix things up.
  • Vibrators can provide stimulation that can otherwise be difficult to achieve, in terms of intensity, placement, and variation. As a result of this increased stimulation, vibrators can also provide the extra stimulation you might need to have an orgasm.
  • Learning how your body responds best to a vibrator during solo play can very effectively lend itself to teaching your partner how to touch you with a vibrator.

Some things to pay attention to with vibrators:

  • If what you want is anal stimulation, be sure and use a vibrator designed for anal play. These will have an anchor or a wide base to ensure the toy won’t disappear where it shouldn’t!
  • As with all sex toys, some are made from harmful materials. Be careful to choose a reputable company and/or research your sex toys! All of Tantus’ products are made with 100% Ultra-Premium Silicone and other safe materials.
  • Vibrators, like any sex toy, can transmit STIs when shared between partners without proper cleaning. Follow your toymaker’s cleaning instructions or use unlubricated condoms to be safe.

So what’s the take-away?

Vibrators are good for sexual pleasure, alone or with a partner, and can help add intensity and satisfaction to your sex life.

If you’re ready for your first vibrator, but aren’t sure where to start, check out How to Choose Your First Sex Toy


Bio

Dr. Karen RayneDr. Karen Rayne has been working in education for the past two decades with an expertise in sexuality education. She has her Ph.D. in Educational Psychology from UT Austin and founded Unhushed (www.unhushed.net) in order to open conversations about sexuality in the home. Dr. Rayne works locally and nationally. She is passionate about providing comprehensive sexuality education to people of all ages and stages with sensitivity and a touch of humor.

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