In venturing into the line of XL toys, beginning with the Inner band trainer and Bishop, it wasn't until I tried this that I was able to get the glide necessary to play "effectively, if you know what I mean. Making the right consistency is purely by experimentation as to what works for you. I clean it off with soap and water, and adding some white vinegar breaks it down in towels very quickly. In your trying this, don't give and curse the lube because everything doesn't go swimmingly off the bat. Do play with the consistency and amount you use ! You know, have fun, this is play after all !